Why do we feel the need to seek others approval?

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Do you feel like you are always trying to seek approval from everyone?

If you are shaking your head yes right now, don’t beat yourself up too much because at some level we all do it.

We all have a need to feel accepted. We want to avoid disappointing others and we definitely do not want to deal with  criticism or disapproval.

Learn 5 ways you may be seeking others approval:

Can you relate to any of the 5 things I listed in my video?

  1. You find it hard to tell people no.
  2. You agree with someone even though you see things totally different.
  3. You don’t pursue your dreams for fear of being judged.
  4. You find yourself apologizing for your words or deeds when people do not agree with them.
  5. You find yourself feeling upset or worried when someone disagrees with you. 

I think the majority of us battle with this because we grow up wanting our parents approval, our peers, our teachers or our religious leaders. We are socialized by culture to act a certain way, dress a certain way, believe certain things, buy certain products, etc.

Social media has just added to this problem because now people are worried about how many friends they have or how many likes they got. Did their post or picture get shared?

I know as I have gotten older I realize it is impossible to please everyone. We have to start validating ourselves and the choices we make that honor our authentic selves.

Once you start trusting yourself to make choices that honor you, you will be shocked at how much time and energy you save. You have to trust that you know what decisions are best for your life.

You will know you are making the right choice because it will feel good. You will feel a sense of peace inside yourself, and that is how you know you are living authentically.

By always seeking others approval we are basically saying that they know what is best for us!

We are literally giving our power away to that other person, or I like to say, we are giving away our energy!

When we live our lives for the sake of other people, we often end up with mediocre lives instead of a life that is happy, abundant, healthy and fulfilling! We remain in a state of despair because we are neglecting our authentic self.

So how do you change that?

The key is to become aware whenever you find yourself giving your power away. Find a simple mantra that you could use to shift yourself out of “seeking” mode. You could use something as simple as “What others think of me is not my truth.”

Or most of you have probably heard the saying “what other people think about me is none of my business.” This will bring you back to the present moment which is all there is.

You can also use some other techniques I have shared in my past videos to energetically shift yourself out of seeking others approval. Just keep making a conscious effort to shift, and with time, like everything else, it will become a habit.

I hope this post allows you to be more aware of how often you may be seeking others approval. 

Remember, ultimately what people think about you has no bearing on your life unless you let it!

Think about some of the people you look up to. I bet one of the qualities that you admire about them is that they are true to themselves. You will begin to get the approval you crave from others when you work on your own self-approval and self-respect. 

Could you relate to any of the 5 things I listed in my video? Do you find yourself seeking others approval in a different way? 

I would love for you to share your thoughts and experiences!

With Love and Gratitude, 

Beth